To be honest, I’ve thought about this post quite a bit because if you follow more than one blogger, you have probably read MANY New Years Resolution posts. If you’re like me, you read them, say to yourself “wow those are great” and keep on going without sitting down and making any resolutions for yourself.
So here we are. I am actually doing it this year! If you’re still reading, I promise it only gets better from here. But before we talk resolutions, I want you to write down three things that you are proud of yourself for doing in 2018. Right now, without thinking, write them down, type them out, speak to Siri on your iphone, just do it without hesitation. I dare you. In fact, I double dog dare you.
Now give yourself a pat on the back or a little self high-five- when was the last time you did that?!
Here are my three things I’m proud of myself for:
1. Buying a house with my husband
2. Getting married to my husband- hey now, I planned that sucker in 3 months! Okay okay, it was for 23 people, but still!
3. Getting promoted to Audit Manager at my firm
As I look at that list I smile a bit because WOW that’s a lot of life events in one year- but what I’m most proud of is how I handled each and every one of the difficult parts to achieve those things- what instagram doesn’t show you. For example, how we were in week 4 of the first house we were going to close on, had paid for all of the countless inspections (chimney, roof, radon, things I didn’t even know about or quite honestly budgeted for) until we found out the seller decided they wanted more money ( without going into the nitty gritty of it all). To be quite frank, we simply couldn’t afford it. We kept moving forward with the help of our amazing realtor, Karen (holler if you need a real estate agent in Maryland), and we found an even better home at a better price. I could keep going, but you get the point.
Now is the tough part, the 2019 resolutions. To keep things equal, I kept it to 3 resolutions this year so I wouldn’t get too overwhelmed and to match my “pride moments” of 2018.
So here they are:
1. Dive into faith- Now, this could keep many things to many people and I honestly love that, we all have different ideas of faith and what that means to us. For me, it means being closer to God. You see, for a type A personality like myself, I plan out every hour of every day and that means I hardly ever carve out an hour to just reflect. This is why I love church- it gives me an hour to reflect. Every time I leave church I feel lighter- a little less baggage and a little more of looking at the BIG picture. We go to a nondenominational church that has a very relaxed atmosphere and each week there is a different life lesson that we dive into which helps me reflect on my own life since I have a hard time doing that on my own. If you’re like me, then try it, if you’re not comfortable going to church then just carve out an hour without your phone and reflect on something- see how you feel afterwards.
2. Road rage a little less- okay I’m laughing as I type this, but I seriously have bad road rage! To be clear- I’m not the one that is riding the tail of other cars of swerving between lanes- I am the one that gets really MAD and ANXIOUS when I see other people do it. It gets even better because my husband is one of them 🙂 Don’t ya love when things come full circle! In the past, I would get so upset if someone cut me off or when there’s construction and someone waits until the very last second to cut in ( we’ve alllll done it!). When I was in high school my mom got me a book called “Don’t sweat the small things”- I’m linking it here. There is one chapter that speaks to being an anxious driver. It has forever changed my view on driving with rage. For example, what if the car who cut in is trying to get to the hospital as soon as possible? It goes through scenarios that I now think about when I see these things happen around me. Now, y’all, I’m not that naive, I know that 99% of the time these aren’t true- but what I’m saying is if you switch your thinking to those scenarios rather than ” what a jerk im so mad” it leaves you with less stress and anxiety and more control over the situation. I haven’t mastered this art yet and still have those days where I’m very anxious behind the wheel- but I’m working on it.
3. Forgive more- Easier said than done. Throughout the course of 2018, as you can see from above, we had quite a few big life events occur. I learned that big events mean high stress levels for everyone involved- which can be very telling of a person. I learned many great and not so great things about people that I carry close to my heart. The not so great things have been tough for me to let go of and I’ve realized it’s more of a pride issue. I’m so prideful that I don’t want to always forgive every time I’ve been wronged- but that’s the EASY path to take. It’s easy to stay angry and upset- what’s tough is to forgive- to move FORWARD. This doesn’t mean you have to forget what happened, but what it does mean is you give yourself a chance to move forward a few steps. The second part of this is to always remember to be kind, for everyone you know is fighting their own battle. In other words, we all have our “stuff” so just be a little nicer, for you never know what someone is going through & that person that wronged you- they’re probably the one that needs your love the most. Last, but certainly not least, this ties into my blog name CIAO BELLA ROSES, or in English, hello beautiful roses. It’s a little silly- but it reminds me to be a rose- the one that’s kind and different- there will always be the thorns that will test you- but I hope this blog will be a reminder to you to choose to be the rose instead. ALL sappy metaphors intended.
WHEW, time for a glass of wine (or coffee depending on the time of day). I hope that you consider writing down your own 3 resolutions for 2019 and please share one of them in the comments below. My hope is to create a community of love and trust ( & fashion duh) *insert basic girl emoticon here*